how can i slow down my angry issues?
You know, the fact that you're even asking this is a huge first step—so give yourself some credit for that. When anger starts to rise, it can feel like a wave you can’t stop, but there are ways to ride it out instead of getting swept away. One thing that really helps is creating a tiny pause between feeling angry and reacting. It sounds simple, but it’s powerful. Try taking one slow, deep breath before you say or do anything. Sometimes just that little gap gives your brain a chance to catch up. Also, pay attention to what your body is telling you. Anger often shows up physically—clenched fists, tight shoulders, that heat in your chest. When you notice those signs, it’s like an early warning system. Step away if you can, even for a minute. Go to another room, splash water on your face, or just stare out the window. And don’t forget—anger is usually covering something else: hurt, fear, feeling dismissed. Ask yourself gently: “What’s really going on here?” Understanding the root can soften the reaction. You’re not trying to never feel angry—you’re learning how to respond in a way that doesn’t leave you with regret later. You’ve got this.